1.Neither. If you look

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at it statistically. Cultures with arrange marriages have a divorce rate from 1-2% while love marriage cultures are over 50%, closer to 60-65% if you include co-habitation. The best way is a courtship. Where you get to know the person for six to 12 months without any of the usual baggage of dating. People should get the input and blessing of their family, as usually they are right about the union or the other person’s character. So I would say it’s best as a combination of both to some degree.

2. Love marriage is better. You don’t see unhappy people at the beginning in a love marriage where you do see some in an arranged marriage. If the divorce percentage is greater in a love marriage it is only because they are allowed to divorce. In some arranged marriages women are not allowed to divorce and remain unhappy for the rest of their lives. I don’t know who would want that.

3) Arranged marriage only as here you, your relatives & well wishers assess the fiancee in all respects before finalising whereas in a love marriage, one sees only artificial acting of so called love & overlook all necessary qualities. Many basic principles are overlooked in a love marriage which shows the adverse effects later. Love marriage only saves a lot of expenditure but it is NOT necessary to spend heavily for mere prestige sake in marriage. Marriage procedures must be simple & not very expensive too.

4.I have seen both happy and both miserable. All things considered, I would never want to pick a spouse for someone else, certainly not my children. They have to marry and live with that choice. I would never want to see them unhappy in marriage and know I was the cause. Any parent who desires to make that choice for their child is revealing a deep and pathological distrust of their child’s adulthood. Everyone should make their own mistakes. An everyone should reap their own rewards of happiness if they choose well.

5.I don’t know if any one is better than the other, but I have never heard of arranged marriages ending in divorce as much as love marriages.

I suppose it all comes down to having the same outlook, values, morals in life and companionship. Having a partner who is your best friend and you both have the same goals in life.

I gather you are asking as your parents want to arrange a marriage for you.

In today times, I would not turn my nose up at this arrangement as you may find it working and lasting many years. Just remember…who knows you better than your own family. Family is very important.

Whatever you decide…good luck.